I would suggest having a fresh notebook for this. Perhaps a Folder on Google Drive. Basically, I want you to have this ‘healing’ business all by itself. I want you to be able to reflect and only see this stuff. Whatever your tool is, have a tool just for healing exercises. This is going to be a process and I want to encourage you to take as much time as you need for this. If you are feeling stuck at all, please feel free to reach out to me. 

We are going to start this healing journey by looking into your head.

I want you to take a moment to acknowledge any self-defeating thoughts you may have. We are going to break this up into two categories (Negative thoughts, and Positive thoughts). I want you to re-write your thoughts in a positive light. You can have two pages or a chart. Whatever works for you.  Here is an example of negative thoughts reworded:

Negative thought

I can’t be successful. I have tried time and time again and I have failed.

Positive thought

 I am capable of being successful. My dreams and goals are important and I will not let anything stand in my way.

 Own these new positive thoughts as if they are already in the present. Remember, this is a journey. What you think about, you bring about.